我是个自私的人吗？
我是吗？
我是个斤斤计较的人吗？
我是吗？
我是个自以为是的人吗？
我是吗？
我是个冷血的人吗？
我是吗？
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这个礼拜的我超级忙
因为我们需要准备个LLDS，像个领导激励营酱的东西
第一次设计真么大的Session
第一次正式当Faci,
第一次兼任Faci，OC
总的来说，我真的是感触良多~
看到很Proactive的members
看到大家对自己的肯定
看到大家对自己的评语
真的让我深深地提醒了自己当初为何做出这个决定
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我是个要求很高的人
对自己相对地也严格许多
很多时候，我好像忘了“乐”这个字
我忘了忙中取乐
我忘了说把我应该做的事看成了一种乐趣、一种享受
是我太过于执着了
我把责任这两个字看得太重太重
重到让自己差点喘不过气了
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这个营让我体验了不同的东西
虽然我依然不太相信自己
但，当中有几句话是让我听进了心坎去了
我一直把自己放在自己觉得舒服的位置上
一旦不符合时，我便急急忙忙地想改变现状
可是，我没有想过，其实，那也是一种体验
体验失败，才会感受到成功的美好
正所谓失败为成功之母
这么简单的道理，我居然完完全全地忘了
是自己太久没有失败过了吧
忘了失败的滋味
也忘了珍惜成功的美好
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对了，看到大家写给我的小纸条
真的很感动、很开心
它让我重新反省自己
开始有点点相信自己的能力
相信说，自己并不是那么差
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谢谢你们，
让我有个美好的回忆，
我想，
这会是我最后一LLDS吧，除非以后的我回来当Faci
也感到欣慰，
这个星期的严重缺眠是值得的!
因为我们需要准备个LLDS，像个领导激励营酱的东西
第一次设计真么大的Session
第一次正式当Faci,
第一次兼任Faci，OC
总的来说，我真的是感触良多~
看到很Proactive的members
看到大家对自己的肯定
看到大家对自己的评语
真的让我深深地提醒了自己当初为何做出这个决定
*
我是个要求很高的人
对自己相对地也严格许多
很多时候，我好像忘了“乐”这个字
我忘了忙中取乐
我忘了说把我应该做的事看成了一种乐趣、一种享受
是我太过于执着了
我把责任这两个字看得太重太重
重到让自己差点喘不过气了
*
这个营让我体验了不同的东西
虽然我依然不太相信自己
但，当中有几句话是让我听进了心坎去了
我一直把自己放在自己觉得舒服的位置上
一旦不符合时，我便急急忙忙地想改变现状
可是，我没有想过，其实，那也是一种体验
体验失败，才会感受到成功的美好
正所谓失败为成功之母
这么简单的道理，我居然完完全全地忘了
是自己太久没有失败过了吧
忘了失败的滋味
也忘了珍惜成功的美好
*
对了，看到大家写给我的小纸条
真的很感动、很开心
它让我重新反省自己
开始有点点相信自己的能力
相信说，自己并不是那么差
*
谢谢你们，
让我有个美好的回忆，
我想，
这会是我最后一LLDS吧，除非以后的我回来当Faci
也感到欣慰，
这个星期的严重缺眠是值得的!
老了
最近，总是觉得自己苍老了许多
不知道是不是真的因为年纪越来越大
做起事情来，总是觉得力不从心
容易觉得累
累的不只是身体上的累，
更是心灵上的累
我常常觉得我很累了
我不想去面对
我想逃避
我想走开，到远远的地方
让自己好好的放松一下
本来想藉助假期
让自己抛开沉重的包袱、压力
重新的调理心态，好重新出发
可是，
我办不到
我是停下了脚步
可是我调理不回我的心态
是否因为我真的老了呢？
已经不复当年的英勇……
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最近的我，常常看到自己的缺点
常常怀疑自己的能力
常常觉得我应该可以做到更好
常常睡很少
常常早出晚归
常常把功课搁在一边
常常忘了联络朋友、家人
常常情绪失控
天啊！这不是老人才有的症状吗？
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我原本的心灵年龄就已经比现实的来的大许多
现在我想我已经去到老年人的心态了~
好像就是Erik Erikson里第6或第7各阶段酱..
我到底要怎样才能突破自己，
再次寻回那青春的思想、英勇的姿态呢？
不知道是不是真的因为年纪越来越大
做起事情来，总是觉得力不从心
容易觉得累
累的不只是身体上的累，
更是心灵上的累
我常常觉得我很累了
我不想去面对
我想逃避
我想走开，到远远的地方
让自己好好的放松一下
本来想藉助假期
让自己抛开沉重的包袱、压力
重新的调理心态，好重新出发
可是，
我办不到
我是停下了脚步
可是我调理不回我的心态
是否因为我真的老了呢？
已经不复当年的英勇……
*
最近的我，常常看到自己的缺点
常常怀疑自己的能力
常常觉得我应该可以做到更好
常常睡很少
常常早出晚归
常常把功课搁在一边
常常忘了联络朋友、家人
常常情绪失控
天啊！这不是老人才有的症状吗？
*
我原本的心灵年龄就已经比现实的来的大许多
现在我想我已经去到老年人的心态了~
好像就是Erik Erikson里第6或第7各阶段酱..
我到底要怎样才能突破自己，
再次寻回那青春的思想、英勇的姿态呢？
爱情
爱情，在不同时代有不同的定义。现代定义为两个人基于一定的物质条件和共同的人生理想，在各自内心形成的对对方的最真挚的仰慕，并渴望对方成为自己终生伴侣的最强烈、最稳定、最专一的感情。但在远古的母系社会、古代的父系社会，爱情有另一种体验，并不是单纯的一夫一妻制。爱是生命的渴望，情是青春的畅想，爱情的意义在于：让智慧和勤劳酿造生活的芳香，用期待与持守演绎生命的乐章，用真诚和理解还有包容和信任去谱写人生的信仰。
那，是百度百科内爱情的定义~
我对爱情的定义还没到那么深，我认为，爱情是留给有资格的人去享受的。如果你是有了足够的心理准备、有了成熟的思想、有了包容的心，那你将会有条件去谈一场轰轰烈烈的爱情；可是如果你没有哪一些条件的话，那你注定要被爱情所伤、被爱情所困。爱情不是一切，可是它却能点缀你的人生~
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而这是爱情心理学的分法
喜欢式
爱情，只有亲密，没有激情和承诺，如友谊。
迷恋式
爱情，只有激情，没有亲密和承诺，如初恋。
空洞式
爱情，只有承诺，缺乏亲密和激情，如纯粹为了结婚的爱情。
浪漫式
爱情，只有激情和亲密，没有承诺，这种“爱情”崇尚过程，不在乎结果。
伴侣式
爱情，只有亲密和承诺，没有激情。这里指的是四平八稳的婚姻，只有权利、义务却没有感觉。
愚蠢式
爱情，只有激情和承诺，没有亲密。没有亲密的激情顶多只是生理上的冲动，而没有亲密的承诺只不过是空头支票。
完美式
爱情，包含激情、承诺和亲密。只有在这一类型中我们才能看到爱情的庐山真面目。
社会学家J.A.Lee将爱情分成六大类
：
(1). 性爱型（eros）：是激情爱（迷恋）的典型，重点放在性的吸引以及感官的满足。
(2). 分享型（storge）：是友谊爱的典型，特征是相互关心和有相同的兴趣与理想，以相互信任为基础的长期关系。
(3). 狂爱型（mania）：是一种占有和强迫式的爱，特征是缺乏安全感以及相当依赖，占有情人且容易吃醋。
(4). 无私型（agape）：是无我的爱，愿为伴侣牺牲自己，只管付出不管回报，将倾其所有与爱人分享一切，并致力让伴侣快乐。
(5). 实际型（pragma）：讲求实际的爱情，特点是重视回报。
(6). 游戏型（ludus）：将爱情看做是一种游戏，玩弄爱情，关系不稳定。
那是由Robert Sternberg写的Triangular theory of Love. 说明了爱情有3大成分组成~
那是他的理论，那我的呢？
我绝对同意因为那3大成分几乎是基本的元素来的~
除此之外，爱情包含的应该是适当的时机吧！
有时候，有了亲密、承诺、激情，偏偏就不是对的时候
有时候，对象来了，可是却少了些化学作用
有时候，到你想要谈恋爱的时候，却没有对象啊
所以，我看来，爱情是需要4大成份的：
亲密、激情、承诺和时机！！
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最近眼看身边的朋友一一地陷入爱情的世界
进进出出的
看得我眼花缭乱~
有的甜蜜、有的哀愁
而身边的朋友、家人也异常的关心我的感情世界
不懂是不是大家认为我年纪不轻了，
是时候应该尝尝爱情的滋味了呢？
想泼一泼冷水说，
本小姐还没有心理准备、没有成熟的思想、没有绝佳的包容心
所以，那种遍体鳞伤的爱情我不想要~
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想看我陷入爱情世界的朋友们，
谢谢关心了！
我想，应该还会有一段日子吧！
除非，我突然改变主意吧~
不过应该几率很小吧！=P
Imbalanced me
It's been the Holidays that I waited for so long..
While taking some break time, I discover something within myself..
I notice that I started to become imbalance.
Imbalance in term of everything..
I am not as healthy as before, easily fall sick and get tired..
I am not as rational as before, emotion comes and goes easily..
I am not as steady as before, I doubt myself more and more frequent recently..
When I look at my coursemates, some of them are getting closer and closer..
Meanwhile I felt that I been so far away from them.
I neither wanna talk nor think about why it happen..
This make me reflect back on the Friendship issue I brought last time..
Friend,
What make a friend?
How people can be good friends?
Why people willing to spend time, effort, and energy on people that they call friend but not to the others?
Where can find those that are "gam" to be friends?
Who are those that can be consider friends and what differentiate them from others?
When can these friendship last for long?
For me,
Relationship, either friendship or romantic kind of relationship,
is fragile, very fragile..
X can be friend with B when problem 1 occur
X can be friend with C or D when problem 2,3 occur but no longer friend B..
Simple problems might kill the relationship..
A simple misunderstanding will cause a big trouble in the relationship..
Since it is so fragile, should we give more time on it?
But the matter is HOW?
Every single individual in this world have their own thinking and way of doing things.
Your way might match with individual A,B,C,D but not with X,Y,Z
Aren't it been very tiring if to match all by altering our own style?
As stated in my own profile there,
I describe myself as a rational and radical person..
Yes, indeed, I am still a rational and radical person..
I been tired of adjusting
I been tired of waiting
I been tired of hoping other to understand me
I been tired of seeing all those easy changed world
YET
This is the reality world
This is what happen in real life
This is what we call as LIFE
This post gonna be a real long one..
Am trying very hard to release all my imbalance emotions..
If I got the time, I want to get close to everyone that I wish to..
If I got the patient, I want to listen to all friends problem..
If I got the passion, I want to change all the bad and negative thinking among friends..
The matter is, I don't have all that..
Who don't wish to have a lot of friends and people care for them?
Who don't wish to get people listen to them?
I didn't mention my problems always doesn't mean I don't have problem..
It doesn't means that I don't need time from other to listen to me..
It doesn't means that I been so selfish that I care so little about others..
Yet, I am glad I have a bunch of best pals with me..
Thanks again to you guys!
When I think of you all, I felt much better and balanced back!
This holiday would be a right timing for me to balance up all things and get back to the usual me again!
p/s: This post is just a sharing of emotion and thought, not referring to any single object nor people ^^
While taking some break time, I discover something within myself..
I notice that I started to become imbalance.
Imbalance in term of everything..
I am not as healthy as before, easily fall sick and get tired..
I am not as rational as before, emotion comes and goes easily..
I am not as steady as before, I doubt myself more and more frequent recently..
When I look at my coursemates, some of them are getting closer and closer..
Meanwhile I felt that I been so far away from them.
I neither wanna talk nor think about why it happen..
This make me reflect back on the Friendship issue I brought last time..
Friend,
What make a friend?
How people can be good friends?
Why people willing to spend time, effort, and energy on people that they call friend but not to the others?
Where can find those that are "gam" to be friends?
Who are those that can be consider friends and what differentiate them from others?
When can these friendship last for long?
For me,
Relationship, either friendship or romantic kind of relationship,
is fragile, very fragile..
X can be friend with B when problem 1 occur
X can be friend with C or D when problem 2,3 occur but no longer friend B..
Simple problems might kill the relationship..
A simple misunderstanding will cause a big trouble in the relationship..
Since it is so fragile, should we give more time on it?
But the matter is HOW?
Every single individual in this world have their own thinking and way of doing things.
Your way might match with individual A,B,C,D but not with X,Y,Z
Aren't it been very tiring if to match all by altering our own style?
As stated in my own profile there,
I describe myself as a rational and radical person..
Yes, indeed, I am still a rational and radical person..
I been tired of adjusting
I been tired of waiting
I been tired of hoping other to understand me
I been tired of seeing all those easy changed world
YET
This is the reality world
This is what happen in real life
This is what we call as LIFE
This post gonna be a real long one..
Am trying very hard to release all my imbalance emotions..
If I got the time, I want to get close to everyone that I wish to..
If I got the patient, I want to listen to all friends problem..
If I got the passion, I want to change all the bad and negative thinking among friends..
The matter is, I don't have all that..
Who don't wish to have a lot of friends and people care for them?
Who don't wish to get people listen to them?
I didn't mention my problems always doesn't mean I don't have problem..
It doesn't means that I don't need time from other to listen to me..
It doesn't means that I been so selfish that I care so little about others..
Yet, I am glad I have a bunch of best pals with me..
Thanks again to you guys!
When I think of you all, I felt much better and balanced back!
This holiday would be a right timing for me to balance up all things and get back to the usual me again!
p/s: This post is just a sharing of emotion and thought, not referring to any single object nor people ^^
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